Serious Adultery

Dating Agency Fraud Man Wanted

Ben Williams, a man suspected by the police for committing fraud is wanted by the police. The man is thought to have conned a selection  a woman out of thousands of pounds.

The woman lent the man £2,500 and then she was informed that he had died and spend a further several thousand pounds to try to get hold of the money.

Police are trying to get hold of the man, who told the woman that his name was Ben Williams, that his birthday was 3rd January 1959 and that he was from Bristol. He also has a facebook page where his date of birth is listed as 1st February 1961. They have released a photograph of the man, hoping that anyone recognising him can get in touch with the police so that they can track him down.

The woman first contacted the man through a dating agency and then through email and then met him at a five bedroomed house in Bristol several times. He told her he travelled with business and that on one occasion his bank card wasn’t working while he was on a business trip and this is when she leant him the £2,500. She then received a message from a ‘business partner’ a few weeks later saying that he had died on a trip to Spain and has left her over two million pounds and she then followed instruction to get the money which included paying out more money.When she didn’t receive anything she contacted the police.

Dating Agency Not Negligent

A dating agency based in Donegal was acquitted after a woman took them to court. She tried to claim 6,000 Euros in damages because she said that four of the men she had met through the agency had treated her inappropriately. She said that they had not been properly vetted.

However, courts did not feel that her claims that the men had groped, battered and assaulted her were the responsibility of the dating agency.  of the dating agency and when they found out what the men had actually done, they felt that it was not totally inappropriate.

The women had paid 600 Euros to be set up on twelve dates, but after four unsatisfactory ones, decided that she was not happy with the service provided. The first man she dated asked her to move in with him on the first date, the second was unmannerly, the third was desperate and the fourth kissed her inappropriately due to a misunderstanding.

The court felt that both parties were honest but that the men had not acted in an abusive manner. The owner of the dating company, Mary Mitchell, explained the process for vetting prospective dates and the court were satisfied that she had fulfilled her obligations. They therefore ruled in her favour.

This is an interesting court case a sit will set precedence for future ones. It means that a dating agency should not be liable for making the perfect match for people and really it is impossible for them to do so and so this is fair. Of course, if they didn’t have a good vetting service or matched extremely inappropriately then people would have a case against them, but it seems in this specific case this did not happen.

Woman Conned in Online Dating Scam

A woman from Swindon has been conned out of £3,000 during an on line dating scam. The Wiltshire police spokesman explained that she was in contact with a man who she believed was an American serviceman. She was having an on line romance with him.

He then asked her for £3,000 stating that it would help him to pay for leave that he wanted to take. However, the woman later discovered that the money had been transferred in to a bank in West Africa.

The police have issued a warning to people who are asked for cash on line. They have stated that they should be very careful as they have not met the person and do not know whether they are genuine or not.

It is  shame that this sort of thing happens so often. It is so easy to let the heart rule the head and many people feel that they have no other chance of finding romance and are flattered when someone shows interest in them. It is a good idea to remain very opened minded and maybe make contact with a selection of people so that you do not feel reliant on a relationship with one person.

Despite all the warnings, many people seem to just get carried away on line and seem happy to send money. Imagine if it was someone you knew asking for the money, it seems that many of us woudl not want to lend it but when it is a stranger they are. It does seem odd but maybe these conmen just have very good persuasive skills. Think hard if you are ever in this situation as you are likely to never see your money again.

Elderly Use Internet Dating Sites

Age UK has launched a campaign to try to get the elderly more connected, using computers. It has urged people to help older people that they know to learn how to use a computer because they feel it helps to stop them getting lonely and can help them keep in better touch with their family and friends.

Many older people find the television is the most company that they have and by opening them up to more opportunities for entertainment they will be able to communicate more with other people, whether that means their family and friends or strangers. Being less mobile may mean that they have less opportunity to meet other people and to see their family, who may live far away.

One of the people interviewed by the BBC said that she used the Internet to keep in touch with her friends and had even used Internet dating, at the age of 64. It is good to see that the older generation are using the Internet to find companions in the same way that younger people do and it is great that it can help them to feel less lonely and may even lead to a long term relationship. It may just be a friendship, but some elderly people do marry after they have lost their husbands or wives and so it is great to think that there is a place for them to meet new friends and partners and also a way that they can stop themselves getting so lonely.

Dating Agency Fees Entered in Inflation Basket

When calculating inflation, the Office for National Statistics, many items are included in a possible shopping basket. Things like food, clothes and gadgets go in to what they consider to be a typical shopping basket. These things are updated every year and this year the cost of dating agencies have been included.

The average baskets are used to calculate the monthly inflation figures and are reviewed every year to make sure that they are reflecting typical spending habits. Once an item has over a certain amount of money spent on it, in total by the population, then it is considered to be worthy of going in the basket. Many new entries include pre-cooked joints, smart phones and large televisions as well as on line dating fees.

The fact that monthly dating agency fees have been included, just shows what a large proportion of the UK are using this service. It is something which has grown over the years and there are many success stories out there, which have really helped them to grow. There is some negative press as well, but this only seems to add to the popularity of websites, bringing them in to the public eye and most people thinking that they would not be conned by bogus people just after money, in the way that some people have been. Also with busy lives, many people do not have time to search around for a date and so this con be a more convenient way of doing so.

Scottish Dating Company Grows

Cupid, is a Scottish on line dating agency. It has just announced that it has made a 202% increase in revenue in 2010. Its pretax profits rose from just £983,000 in 2009 to £4.16m in 2010. This is a massive leap and couple be to do with their acquisition of certain domain names.

The company own a selection of dating websites and also host dating sites for other companies. The companies has a selection of different names, appealing to different niches in the on line dating market. It has 13 million customer profiles on it altogether.

This is an interesting result, showing how on line dating is a growing industry. This company may of course, not be typical of all dating companies but the fact that it has shown success at least shows that someone is making money in this area.

With the economy not good at the moment, it is difficult to predict what sorts of industries will do well. Anything that is not a necessity would be expecting to be worse off due to people not spending so much money, but maybe dating is considered to be essential. The cost of an on line dating agency can also be relatively cheap and perhaps this is also part of the appeal. Finding someone to spend our life with is something which many of us rate as very important and therefore would be worth spending some money on. However, many people have cut out the really expensive luxuries such as holidays and it could be that the smaller luxuries may have to go as well. Only time will tell whether the on line dating industry will suffer or not.

Cheating on your partner

As we’ve seen in these pages time and again, cheating on a partner can be a dangerous game. But if you play the game right and stay within some unwritten rules, you can have your cake and eat it

The first thing is to choose your conquests carefully and erect barriers between them and your personal life. In extremis, this can mean adopting a fake persona, but in the main it means simple things like not divulging your telephone number.

Here are a few tips to be going on with:

1. Be honest about your dishonesty
   If you want to avoid a protracted and messy emotional entanglement, make sure you tell your target exactly what you’re after. Don’t promise them love and ever-lasting romance. If you’re after the electric excitement of illicit sex, say so! If they’re interested, they’ll sign up. If not, you just side-stepped a minefield.
2. If in doubt, hide your identity
   History is littered with divorced people who added their lover on Facebook, or swapped phone numbers with a one-night stand. If you want the person’s body but are unsure about how honest you can bewith them (see point 1) then the best defence you can erect is a solid lie. A fake name, second email address or a spare pay-as-you-go SIM card puts a firewall between your daytime existence and your night-time sins. Sure, it’s not moral, but you’ve already crossed that particular Rubicon.
3. Don’t bitch about your partner
   The moment you start grousing about your partner to a lover, you’re sending signals that you might be leaving them. Fine if that’s your intention, but if you just want a shag you’re opening the door to trouble. Better to say “I love my wife, but this is fun” than “God I hate my wife – and I love the way you give blowjobs?” The latter course sounds flattering, but really you’re subconsciously setting the scene for “so when you leaving your partner?“
4. Be Irregular
   The more predictable you get in your habits, the easier it will be to get caught out. If you bill Tuesday nights as “bingo with the ladies” every week, eventually the people you are supposed to be with will inadvertently ruin the game. People are good at spotting patterns. Better the occasional shag than settling into a cosy routine that can be upset by a partner who thinks they know where they can find you in pinch.
5. Technology is your friend. And your enemy.
   To help you in your quest for off-piste nasties, there are dedicated sites like Ashley Madison – which specialise in putting attached people in front of each other, which neatly sidesteps point 1. However, Facebook and email accounts also put you a hop, skip and a jump away from discovery. As in point 2, keeping a degree of anonymity is essential in most cases to avoid unwanted blowback.

Do Celebrity Dates Make Us Envious?

Reading reports that Justin Bieber and his new girlfriend Selena Gomez have recently had a Californian holiday at a cost of $6,000 a night could be enough to make anyone jealous. However, does reading about this sort of thing, make other couples feel like they deserve to be spoilt too?

We do not all want expensive hotel suites but the idea of just being able to get away for a weekend would make a lot of people happy. If this famous couple can manage to find privacy, then why is it so hard for the rest of us? Being just 17, could be something which is in Bieber’s advantage. Having a young family or ageing parents are something which many couples have to face and therefore tie them own to one place.

There are ways to enjoy yourself and add a spark to your relationship though. Many relationship books and advisor’s explain that it is important to continue having dates even when you are married. Newly weds may feel this is a little unnecessary but as the years go by it is easy to ignore each other. The routine of life can get in the way and with working hours tending to be increasing for most people and money worries causing more arguments than ever it can be difficult to keep a relationship going. By taking an evening out each week, to go out together or even to enjoy each others company at home, can make a massive difference in a relationship. You do not need to spend a lot of money as just being curled up on the sofa together, listening to music or watching a DVD can do you as much good as going out for the evening to the cinema.

A Cheating Husband: Confession

I thought I would share my story with somebody, since obviously I can’t confess to anybody else.  Unlike many, I am not naive enough to think that confiding anything with one’s friends about having an affair is a good idea: there is no juicier a story to tell others over a drink after all, and it’s from there that an indignant third party places that ‘anonymous tip off’ call and trust is lost forever.  Nor do I plan to make some of the obvious mistakes that many foolish men seem to make when entering an illicit affair with others.

I’m a successful financier who works in the City of London, and probably like many men of a certain age I am looking ahead and starting to work out that the only way physically is down, so I ought to make sure I enjoy the last trappings of youth while I can.  That’s a mid-life crisis I think, except I’m only 31 years old, am in excellent shape physically: muscular, 6 foot tall, a full head of hair and people often think I am in my mid 20′s.

I married my wife about 18 months ago after spending 5 years together prior to that – that makes me very close indeed to the ’7 year itch’ I had heard about all my life.  Before that I was something of a player, graduating from single girlfriends in my teens and early 20′s to servicing 5 different girls at the same time at my peak – my wife to be when I met her in a London club was just one at the time, not that she knew it.  A part of me always loved that variety of different girls, and that they were unaware of one another which shows I’ve always had a bad boy side to me.  But I fell for my wife-to-be and promptly dumped the rest to focus just on her: on a range of levels we clicked and I found a wonderful girl who to this day is my best friend.

However one aspect of our relationship was never perfect, and then has become increasingly poor, which is our love life.  My high sex drive is not particularly compatible with hers which is lower, and just like her mother (at least so she tells me), my wife is one of a small number of women who seem to be incapable of having an orgasm however hard or long I have tried to stimulate – she gets close but never.  There really are a few out there, just as there is the odd girl can orgasm just from an initial warm up lick.

I didn’t think her lack of enjoyment of sex would bother me, but over time it has because for me making love is sensual and about mutual sharing of pleasure from one another, not a quick 5 minute shag she clearly wants over with as a duty once a week at best.  In the end I decided to stop being the one asking to see how long it would take before she made an effort.. and sure enough she never did, and I found my right hand reverting to being my new best friend – I was a teenager once more.  So to give you an idea of how long it has been now, I would say we have sex once every 2-3 months; it’s a very unhealthy situation, and I have even suggested counseling but that was batted away by her.  Yet bizarrely on so many other levels I love her to bits; she is a fantastic person and friend, and we are building a happy life together.

Being successful I have bought an expensive house in west London for us, and we’re talking about starting a family in a year or two as she’s now in her late 20′s.. presumably even my wife will have to accept we need to have sex for that.

So therein lies the background and driver to why I decided to have an affair – or perhaps I should be more explicit, affairs.  I may have only started two weeks ago but I have certainly not wasted time.  I made a decision on a whim that I was going to find a girl based on a combination of sexual need and perhaps a little boredom.  Purely selfish of course, but I pretend no less and likewise do not apologise as I plan to continue being very careful.  That being the case my own guilt will be the only issue to manage as my wife will not feel hurt about what she does not know.  Do I feel guilty?  Not in the slightest, which is doubtless in some part fueled by a sense that she does not do enough to satisfy her man in bed and therefore cannot blame him for looking elsewhere eventually.

I’m sure that will offend some, outrage others but then it is easy to sit on the moral high ground when judging somebody else’s life.

In case you’re wondering, it is really so easy for a reasonable looking man with money and the means to have an affair in London.  It is a City teeming with horny girls, both attached and single, all happy to oblige and have a lot of fun.  So I looked into the idea of having an affair in typically scientific fashion: researching the best ways, key mistakes, best alibi’s, the do’s and don’ts.. what a woman should look out for such as changes in behaviour from her husband, and really dumb things people do that lead to problems such as lying to those they are seeing about being single.

So my solution was a simple one: join one of the many dating sites that focus purely on having an affair.  My profile clearly states I am ‘attached and looking for women’ so there is no pretense of anything else to the girls.  I just prefer to tell them she is my girlfriend than wife for reasons I’ll go into later.  A useful review site recommended it was seen as a numbers game and that the girls in particular are snowed under by the men as the ratio is 2:1 or greater, so one should see sending off countless mails as rather like the fisherman trawling the sea to see what comes back in his net.

It took about 4 days of trawling on the site before I got my technique refined enough to start talking to Lilly.  Within a couple more days we were exchanging mails off the website directly (to a secret email address for me obviously), and by Thursday the following week decided we could not wait for our planned date next Tuesday and so decided to skip that and meet at my secret flat in the City.  Rule number one for a man with the means: always have a safe place to take the girls – my current place I’m lucky to have temporarily until the end of March, after which I am already planning to pick up a nice one bedroom place of my own in a nice, convenient area of the city.

It was a slightly surreal moment when Lilly walked up to the door of the flat and within 5 seconds were passionately kissing one another on the street.  A week of dirty chat about how much we wanted to fuck each other having already exchanged photos was unleashed, and I took her up to the flat and found myself licking her out while she sucked me off within 5mins of meeting her.  We then had some of the best sex of my life for the next hour, and decided we needed more as soon as possible and met the next morning and fucked for another 2 hours.

Lilly turned out to be a cute 26 year old blonde from the Czech Republic, incredibly horny with a sex drive that matched my own and a bad girl streak I love: absolutely no shame in fucking men behind her boy friend’s back as he does not satisfy her in bed.  It was so wonderful to meet a girl who loved it and who loved dirty sex and trying out the various tantric techniques I know from my past.  To have a girl who has been busy fucking lots of men behind her own boyfriend’s back for the last month tell you sincerely that you’re the best she has ever had (and know she means it) is a gratifying thing, plus the bolster to one’s ego to have a girl telling you how great your body is and how handsome you are.  Of course, that was in part because I had got into her head with compliments and talk of wanting to be her lover long term, and not just the usual one-off fling most men have with girls on the site.

That’s one of the unexpected upsides to having an affair so far: it is really good to spend the time with people who openly appreciate you and vice versa.  Since that first meeting, I have met with Lilly about another six times in the last 10 days – almost always just for long sex sessions and it is still incredibly good and satisfying for us both.  I expect that excitement will gradually wear off and we will go our separate ways, but the relationship is secure within its boundaries, even though she is quite clearly falling for me and fantasizing about it turning into a relationship somehow.

Still within a week of meeting Lilly, the net I had not really been attending too closely on the site had returned a few more fish unexpectedly.  I started talking to a 31 year old single girl from Australia called Sarah, who from her photos seemed cute and with a great body, legs and tits.. and just as importantly we clicked on a personality level.  That might surprise those reading but I love to click with them because when you get into a girl’s head a little, she feels a little more for the man and the the sex is much more intimate.. even better, and you get more of it for longer.  So with Sarah being single I made sure to tell her I had a girlfriend (albeit a complex situation in which we owned a house together etc etc), which always leaves that unspoken possibility of breaking up more easily than a wife, and then charmed her to the maximum.

I set up a date with Sarah for the following week, because to ensure no change in my behaviour I planned my ‘work drinks’ well in advance and let my wife know.  Before that could take place however I had started talking to Robyn, who turned out to be an absolutely stunning, upper class blonde who works for a highly rich family in Kensington, and had just that week joined the site.  She wanted the thrill of cheating on her boy friend the week he was away in a few weeks time, and after some flirtation by email we agreed ahead of that to meet that Sunday morning at my secret flat for fun.

This was a slightly surreal experience, because Robyn was only 23yrs old, and from her photos had the face and body of a model.. well in person she did not disappoint either.  She was a real beauty, the kind of girl I rarely picked up before my wife either, so it was hugely gratifying that she fancied me too – and that we turned out to be so sexually compatible in bed.  Again my tantric practices seemed to go down very well and she proudly told me afterwards that she had had 8 orgasms, far more than she’d ever managed with her boyfriend and that one was so intense she’d “nearly squirted”.. got to laugh I suppose, for me it has been good to remind myself I am pretty good in bed and so far they all want more.

The next day I met up with Sarah in the evening for our date, and despite being fairly tired from so much sex with Lilly and Robyn, had no problem swiftly bringing her back from the bar and fucking her for over an hour at the flat.  Sarah was a very sexy girl, we had a great time and again sex with her was very satisfying for us both – again, her summing up was that if I could make her cum that was “a bloody good sign”, and she has since hinted that I’m far and away her favourite man she has met on the site and one she wants to see again. Who knows how much of the compliments are true, but in the fantasy of an affair, paying each other plenty of attention and saying such things is part of the experience.

My one and only sub-standard sex session with Lilly followed the next day as after screwing girls almost non-stop for two weeks my body finally decided it needed a rest.  By that time I had also got chatting to an incredibly sexy black girl called Z— who had just joined.  I had originally set up to meet her at the flat for ‘breakfast’ the next day, which to be clear would have meant 4 different girls on 4 different consecutive days, but in the end I’ve postponed that back to Saturday.

Since then the remainder of this week has been quiet by recent standards.  Lilly has been unwell for a few days so we could not meet up this morning, and last night my date with Robyn for a second session didn’t happen: still not sure why, but she seems to have dropped off email.. but then is a mysterious one with a job in high fashion.  Who knows if I’ll hear back from her.. hopefully, but if not it was a wonderful morning – I will be that old man walking painfully slowly down the street one day, but I will be the one with the glint in his eye over such times and not the one wishing he had lived life more.

So now I’m sitting her, my wife has head off for a couple of days to stay at a family friend we both know, and I’m sitting here anticipating a visit to the flat tomorrow morning to fuck another girl (Z—) for the first time for a couple of hours tomorrow.

Four girls in just over two weeks.. and that’s really just the start.  Now that I’ve tasted the world of infidelity I love it, and know I won’t be stopping.  I may have periods where I am not seeing anybody, but I will always end up back and looking to add some excitement to my life with a secret lover (or three).  I think when my wife and I have children that might change things – hopefully I’ll be less self-centered, but even then can see a couple of late work evenings a week, for fun on the side with a married woman in a similar situation looking for something else, as being quite manageable with duties as a good father.

So that’s my story so far.. the story of a newly cheating husband.  Really the only way that this could go wrong is of course if I were to be found out.  If I were to get careless for example, or do something really stupid like bring a girl back to the house and screw her here.  But I won’t, because as flawed a husband as I may be, the one thing I want to make sure is that I protect my wife from a hurtful truth that she is not able to satisfy her husband sexually so he has gone elsewhere.

We’re otherwise not really in an unhappy marriage at all – we’re lucky because we’re such good friends which bodes very well indeed for the latter years of our life.  However we’re in a largely sexless marriage, which for most men is not really enough.. at least not until a good deal older.

Life is an interesting place.. it seems very boring and staid when playing by the rules.  But when one redefines the whole game and makes the rules themselves.. well, that’s when it’s a lot more fun as my story might testify.

The Cost of an Introduction Agency

There are still some companies around which are rather more exclusive than Internet dating. An Internet dating agency can cost about £30 a month which can seem rather expensive but compared to the cost of an exclusive introduction agency which can be as much as £10,000 for eighteen months, it makes them seem like a bargain.

One of the main attractions of these exclusive introduction agencies is the fact that they are discrete and anonymous. The County Register Dating Agency is one of these types of organisations and many customers feel that it is well worth the money as they do not have to be on line all of the time. They have a private database which they fill up with clients details once they have been personally interviewed. The agency tend to have customers who work long hours or who do not have time to socialise and meet people. They are also the type of people who do not want tehir details on a website on the Internet.

With the amount of money they are paying, they probably also hope to attract someone who is well off. It is a good way of perhaps making sure you are getting matched up with someone who is financially in a similar position to you. You will also get a personal service. However, whether their success rates are any better than any other type of dating agency is not known and so whether you get good value for money is anybody’s guess. Whether you want to use this service is probably more to do with personal preference and privacy as well as your budget than whether it is going to work.