It is without a doubt morally wrong to have an affair with a married man, I know this, I was taught this.

…but it does not stop you from thinking about it.

I’m a 19 year old woman, a virgin, I’ve never once been kissed or have even been out on a date with a man- not because I’m ugly or horribly scarred, [I am quite pretty] It is because I’m a recluse and I work from home. Because of that, It is rare that I am on the receiving end of male attention.

I am not twisted enough to get off from the idea of “-fucking some other woman’s husband” and I do not love this man, I don’t even want mutual fun. I am simply at my lowest right now, my brother is terminally ill, my father does not have much time left either. There is so much drama going around the only thing I want is to be held, comforted, distracted.

So I have known both him and his wife since I was 15, the husband has always had a very flirty personality and I think it was smart of me to keep wary of him for the past four years and keep as little contact as possible with him. I sensed he was trouble then and I sense it now.

But lately he has been talking to me more often,his marriage is really in the pits, apparently there is no intimacy, they get into fights over it and he seems very confused and depressed.

He has started saying things like “what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her” I instantly think that that is the, stupidest, sleaziest line ever–but the more he says those types of things, the more appealing it is to me?

So I need advice, I either listen to what he says, and go into something that I KNOW I’ll regret later…

OR I tell his wife the truth about him. If I did tell her, it would surely destroy what is left of their marriage, as would me having an affair with him if she found out. And I’m certain that she would, because Karma IS a bitch. And I should know better than to fuck with a force like that, much less another woman’s husband. But the thought is there, and it is tempting.

So would it be better to not tell her about him? I don’t know what to do…

[Fake name, spare email address for privacy]